{"id":4253,"date":"2017-04-27T07:42:32","date_gmt":"2017-04-27T07:42:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/theduanewells.com\/?p=4253"},"modified":"2026-02-23T18:35:28","modified_gmt":"2026-02-23T18:35:28","slug":"4253","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/4253\/","title":{"rendered":"Fire Island: Don\u2019t Be So Quick to Judge"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<figure id=\"attachment_4254\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4254\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-4254\" src=\"http:\/\/theduanewells.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Cast-1.jpg\" alt=\"Fire-Island-Cast\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" srcset=\"https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Cast-1.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Cast-1-600x338.jpg 600w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Cast-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Cast-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Cast-1-1024x576.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-4254\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">The cast of Logo&#8217;s Fire Island docuseries premiering April 27 at 8PM<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>When was the last time you were unfairly scrutinized by someone (or a group of someones) without even being given the benefit of the doubt?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>And how did that make you feel?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>With the debut of Logo\u2019s <em>Fire Island <\/em>on the horizon tonight, that very question has been much on my mind. Which is why I figured there would be no better time than the present to weigh in on both the destination and the Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos-produced docuseries that it has inspired.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>Purporting to \u201cfollow a group of young professionals living together in a beachfront share house for the summer as they search for romance, temptation and thrills,\u201d <em>Fire Island <\/em>the series has already generated more than its fair share of eye-rolling and venomous assessments among the chattering classes well ahead of the airing of the show\u2019s debut episode. In fact, if buzz alone was a defining early benchmark of success, one might already single out <em>Fire Island<\/em> as a hit.<\/p>\n<p><div class=\"embed\"><iframe title=\"Fire Island | &#039;Six Men, One House&#039; Official Trailer | Series Premiere April 27th at 8\/7c!\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/OyriGKb7tds?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>Up until a year ago, when I made my first visit to Fire Island, I would probably have joined the chorus of critics prematurely lambasting the reality series. But today, armed with knowledge and personal experience, I am prepared to defend it. Or to, at the very least, give it a long lead.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>Before I go any further, a little perspective. In the spirit of full disclosure, I must admit that for years I carried a negative perception of Fire Island (the destination) close to my heart. As to the genesis of this perception, I cannot be certain, but it was so very real that I notoriously rejected offhand not only invitations but even the mere suggestion that I visit the gay enclave.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>Connecticut? Sure. The Hamptons? Absolutely. Laguna Beach? Unabashedly yes. But Fire Island? \u201cNo\u201d would spring to my lips before the word \u201cFire\u201d could pass the lips of the person unfortunate enough to make the suggestion to me. \u201cNot my thing,\u201d was my constant refrain where Fire Island was concerned and I sang it proudly over and over again.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>But thankfully there is this little thing called evolution.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>Over the last decade, I have practiced the art of saying \u2018yes\u2019 to life\u2019s opportunities which directly influenced my decision to finally accept an invite to spend a few days on Fire Island last summer.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>And you know what?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>After years of cynicism, I found myself charmed by the place from the moment I stepped off the ferry that deposited me on the shores of what I came to think of as a slice of paradise just off the south shore of Long Island. Granted I arrived the week after the Pines Party, the premiere event of summer on the island, so it was unusually quiet, but that does not signify as far as my rationale for sharing this anecdote. The point is that my judgment of Fire Island, based not on fact, but instead on a perception not anchored in anything more than projection, turned out to be the farthest thing from the truth.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_4256\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4256\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-4256\" src=\"http:\/\/theduanewells.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Pines-Club.jpeg\" alt=\"Fire-Island-Pines-Club\" width=\"600\" height=\"450\" srcset=\"https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Pines-Club.jpeg 1200w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Pines-Club-600x450.jpeg 600w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Pines-Club-300x225.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Pines-Club-768x576.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Pines-Club-1024x768.jpeg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-4256\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Sharegurl&#8217;s Pines Club, Fire Island, NY<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Rather than being dismayed by the experience I had anticipated with varying degrees of loathing for most of my adult life, I spent hours touring around the island admiring the striking architecture and gardens of the homes, walking Instagram-perfect sandy beaches, watching spectacular sunsets from the docks, admiring pretty people and, if I\u2019m honest, taking pride in the fact that decades of nurturing by the LGBTQ community had produced an oasis of such superlative magnificence. Truth be told, in all my travels, rarely has my preconception of a destination been so pleasantly off the mark. Which brings me back to <em>Fire Island<\/em> the series.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>I don\u2019t know the six guys at the center of this new <em>Fire Island<\/em> series, but I did get the chance to become briefly acquainted with one of the show\u2019s stars during my sojourn on Fire Island last summer. As fate would have it, Patrick, the show\u2019s southern gent, was my host at the <a class=\"bn-clickable\" href=\"http:\/\/www.sharegurl.com\/lodging\/#book\/rn\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;lnid&quot;:&quot;Sharegurl&quot;,&quot;mpid&quot;:1,&quot;plid&quot;:&quot;http:\/\/www.sharegurl.com\/lodging\/#book\/rn\/&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">Sharegurl<\/a> property, <a class=\"bn-clickable\" href=\"http:\/\/www.sharegurl.com\/lodging\/#book\/rn\/rn-l\/57192b3815f2a1712dc1862f\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;lnid&quot;:&quot;Pines Club&quot;,&quot;mpid&quot;:2,&quot;plid&quot;:&quot;http:\/\/www.sharegurl.com\/lodging\/#book\/rn\/rn-l\/57192b3815f2a1712dc1862f\/&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">Pines Club<\/a>, where I spent those memorable few days in the Long Island sun last year. [ For the record, I highly recommend Sharegurl properties for newbies to Fire Island because they are beautifully situated and perfect for short-term stays, but I digress]. Handsome, professional, charming, polite and preternaturally friendly (and not necessarily in that order) are the words that come to mind to describe this Georgia peach who welcomed me to the island. Based upon my encounter with Patrick alone, I am inclined to believe the boys of <em>Fire Island<\/em> are not, on the whole, due the premature demonization they have received.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_4255\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4255\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-4255\" src=\"http:\/\/theduanewells.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Patrick.jpg\" alt=\"Fire-Island-Patrick\" width=\"600\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Patrick.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Patrick-600x1067.jpg 600w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Patrick-169x300.jpg 169w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Patrick-768x1365.jpg 768w, https:\/\/theduanewells.com\/staging3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Fire-Island-Patrick-576x1024.jpg 576w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-4255\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Fire Island&#8217;s Patrick, posing for a fun shot, during my stay at Pines Club last summer<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>Moreover, despite suggestions to the contrary, just as the <em>Real Housewives of Beverly Hills<\/em> are not representative of everyday housewives in Beverly Hills and as such are not subjected to the weight of that burden, and just as <em>The Real Housewives of Atlanta<\/em> are not representative of Atlanta\u2019s more well-provided for spouses, so should the cast of <em>Fire Island<\/em> not be expected to be emblematic of every Fire Island patron, let alone the entire LGBTQ community. The six guys who form the nucleus of <em>Fire Island<\/em> the series are six individuals starring in their own life dramas. Their dramas are not mine just as they are not yours. They are theirs and theirs alone. And perhaps most important of all, let\u2019s not forget the little fact that drama and entertainment are soulmates, forever intertwined with one feeding off the other and vice versa.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>Just as LGBTQ pioneers of yesteryear vociferously raised their voices and fought the battles that laid the foundation for our community to now enjoy the privileges of marriage, adoption, public service and so many other pertinent human rights, I\u2019d also like to think they fought for our right to have a little carefree fun by our own standards rather than by the world\u2019s\u2026that they also fought for our right to celebrate our individuality and to enjoy our lives on par with our counterparts in the world. After all, bad behavior, if it can be called as much, is not the sole province of the heterosexual world.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>Think about that tonight if you find yourself watching <em>Fire Island <\/em>and inching toward judgment. Then recall the words of the late Oscar Wilde, who always knew how to take the sting out of overzealous preoccupation with so called propriety, when he wrote, \u201cHumanity takes itself too seriously. It is the world\u2019s original sin. If the cave-man had known how to laugh, history would have been different.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p>I couldn\u2019t agree more.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content-list-component bn-content-list-text text\" data-beacon=\"{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;citation&quot;}}\" data-beacon-parsed=\"true\">\n<p><em>Fire Island <\/em>airs on Logo tonight at 8pm. 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